We were told while we were growing up that we should do our best in school to make the best grades we could. Why? Because that was what we were told would set us apart from other people vying for the same job. If you were up against a Harvard graduate, that means you're not getting the job.
The idea behind what people define as "successful" has changed. It is no longer your IQ or GPA, but your emotional intelligence that is the most important. Daniel Goleman, a psychologist, takes interest in this idea, saying that our emotional intelligence is what drives us to succeed and sets us apart from “raw intelligence”. It is the perception, management, and control of our emotions. Without it, we are found to have no drive, no vision, and no will to succeed. Our emotions relate directly to our leadership abilities and how we take control of a situation and make it work. A person with a 4.0 GPA could be naturally intelligent and completely incapable of leading anyone if they lack emotional intelligence.
Emotional intelligence also affects the people we interact with every day. You will find a person in a successful area if they can relate and understand other people.
Therefore, the key to success IS all in our emotions.
Goleman mentioned an experiment that exemplified emotional intelligence. A child was placed into a room with a table, and on the table was a marshmellow. They were told they could eat the marshmellow now, or wait 20 minutes to get another one as well. This forced the children to use self-control. Later, they found the now 18-year-old children that were used for the experiment. It was shown that the children that displayed good self-control were more dependable, and also scored around 210 points higher than the others on their SAT. View the video below:
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